Looking Forward to Monday Mornings
A series of essays on business, architecture, and the business of architecture.
Little Ego : Big Ego
by Daniel Frisch
Posted January 10th, 2019

Stereotyping architects is easy. Beyond the superficial wire-rimmed glasses, black turtlenecks and sport coats with elbow patches, architects are universally and fairly characterized as egotistical and arrogant. As a rule, we architects do little to discourage the stereotype. We play along and laugh at ourselves, yet we also hang on with pride as the imagery affords a certain distinction.

I suspect that the apparent outsize ego of the architect is often overstated. Fighting small battles, stubbornness, grandstanding, and winning arguments is usually a sign of the opposite – an undersized ego attributable to low self-esteem – coupled with a fear of losing, or even worse, being wrong. Success in many disciplines both stems from and fuels the ego, and in most disciplines, systems by which to measure success abound. Hollywood has the Academy Awards, and business has Forbes Magazine and it’s lists ranking the wealth of individuals and corporations. And, sports, well, scorekeeping was invented to track and compare accomplishments.

Architecture and design inhabit an alternative world of subjectivity, and especially so for residential practitioners. While Architecture Digest publishes and even ranks the most famous amongst us, most small firms toil anonymously, endeavoring to meet and exceed client expectations through quality design and competent project management. To succeed at this requires more than an average ego.

I have found that excelling as a residential architect demands maintaining an ego so large that the pressure to win small battles or to be always right drops away. To collaborate, to work in the service of others, and to rigorously solve problems requires the self-confidence to listen, to assess complex and often conflicting criteria, and to divine insightful answers without arrogance and self-interest.

Like most sermons, the foregoing sounds easy. Hard work, experience and the constant pursuit of excellence are together the simplest prescription I know to attain confidence, and to have one’s ego grow from a stereotypical and superficially large ego into something greater.